A Little Bit of Encouragement Goes A Long Way

Have you ever felt that you were doing things all by yourself with no one to appreciate you? Well, I have. I fell into the "victim" trap where I thought no one appreciated the work I did and everyone taking me for granted, asking me to do favors for them with them returning no favors to me.

I thank God for my friend, Brina, for talking me out of this mentality when I had problems with my MapleSEA guild a year back because I felt like I was at everyone's beck and call and always doing things for people with no one doing anything for me.

Dear blog readers, if you find yourself tired and burnt out, it's time to sit back and evaluate why.

Could it be due to:
1.) Overworking yourself?
2.) Absence of feedback from friends/colleagues/family?
3.) Unresolved feelings?
4.) Any other reason that you actually have realized.

Let's talk about yourself first, yes, you yourself, the one whose burnt out and feelings running all over the place.

1.) List down what you are good at one by one, remind yourself of the times you excelled at something, it could be getting a good grade for a difficult test or the day you married your spouse. If you have done well before, you can continue to do well again. Remember, even famous people too have their lows in life, but still, they succeed and eventually become heroes and icons.

2.) Appreciate yourself for being you! There is no one else on this planet Earth who is 100% identical to you, doesn't that feel great? If you always feel you have no identity of your own, well, now there you have it! Your very own identity.
You are made up not just of your physical body, but also your intellect, emotional makeup, behavior, thinking patterns and a whole lot of other stuff. Try to identify what makes you - you.

3.) Do not take in everything that people say to you. In short, guard yourself from unnecessary hurt and depression because of something someone said to you. If someone tells you your dressing is horrible, its his/her opinion and not yours. If someone told you that you look ugly, again, its his/her opinion and not yours. You can't possibly believe in everything and anything.
Learn to evaluate before reacting to something.

4.) Resolve to not be a victim! Staying in the pit can make you feel comfortable but if you stay in the pit forever, you will never get anything done. So what if people don't like you? Start finding people who will like you and stay away from those who do not like you! If you always hang around people who dislike you, you are just making them happy!

5.) Listen to and respect your feelings. They tell you everything you need to know about your body. Don't push nor hide your feelings, face them for they could be your best help in time of need. Enough of the macho crap, guys are never immune from stress, depression and fear.

I won't guarantee that the 5 steps listed above will work for everyone, well, at least I tried :)

Have a great weekend! :D